The Emotional Self

The Human MindThe training will focus upon the emotional framework developed by Andrew Wallas during his 30 year inner journey, which has encompassed extensive study and discovery of the emotional self. He has identified six stages in emotional growth as follows:

Defended: The first stage allows an exploration of the various ways in which we defend ourselves against imagined threat and the avoidance of past pain and trauma. The defences employed are numerous and varied and include denial, projection, judgement, splitting, defiance, addiction, depression.

Brokenness: The second stage invites individuals to acknowledge their own brokenness, which will include an exploration of heartbreak, shattered dreams, fears, terrors, shame, guilt, not feeling good enough and a general feeling of fracture (incompleteness.)

Collapse: The third stage, having created an environment of safety and security, precipitates the possibility of collapse. This is the final stage of giving up our defendedness and allowing feelings of futility, hopelessness, meaninglessness, despair and emptiness to surface. It is impossible to explore this inner reality without a sense of safety and security.

Acceptance: There can be no personal healing and recovery without an acceptance of what is. There is a tendency in all individuals to focus upon where they want to get to whereas all psychological and emotional development has to start from where we are. This means acknowledging and releasing past trauma, heartbreak, shattered dreams, terror and pain. The only path to emotional freedom is to accept oneself as you are.

Inspiration: Stage Five is based on the experience that when acceptance is present, new energy of inspiration and insight naturally flows. Many individuals exist in a very rigid system where there is little space for inspiration, so this is a new and exciting phase allowing creativity, originality, receptivity and an increasing confidence to trust an inner voice of authority to guide them in their lives ahead.

Vision: The final stage of this process allows each individual to create a unique vision for their lives. The key components to this vision are a strong sense of self, a deep respect for the other, a set of values that are owned and embodied and a connection to a power greater than ourselves.

Practical Exploration

The training will invite participants to work through the six stages together, experiencing and releasing our repressed and painful feelings. We will create the safety necessary to allow expression and integration of these tormenting and disturbing emotions and memories. All of us have a feeling that part of us is irrevocably broken and can not be healed. Trainees will be encouraged to directly experience their brokenness in order to integrate this feeling of incompleteness. We all feel a compulsion to hold everything together and keep going in life, whereas the way through is to allow ourselves to collapse into feelings of futility and emptiness which will lead to acceptance and inspiration.